FUNDRAISING












I have spent alot of time reading other blogs in this long waiting time, and how grateful I am for them because it has really validated my feelings, frustrations, and concerns.
Something I have been praying about is the whole idea of fundraising and donations etc. Our community does have people who have adopted, and as much as I feel that people support the idea of adoption, everyone that I know of has funded the entire adoption/trip themselves. The other thing is that the couples in my area who have adopted or are adopting, are professionals. (surgeons, doctors)

I guess I feel like we shouldn't really be fundraising since we don't have a fertility problem. We just simply felt like God has called us in this direction as well as the fact that we feel completely drawn to Ethiopia and it's culture and people. I have dreamed of having a large family for so long and this was always a way that we wanted to do that. We are fairly certain that we will go back for two more after our current adoption. That would give us 6 children and that's what I've prayed for.
At this point, I would like some feedback about the fundraising/donations idea. Is it OK to ask friends/family if they would be interested in donating? Does this sound bad? My family has had several really difficult things happen in the last few years and are not really in a position to help, but what about the church. My one idea was to ask the church to help with a few fundraisers. Is this a bad idea?
I just want to clear up that we did not go into this process blindly. We did know how much it would cost, and didn't start the process not having any money, however; it is a large amount of money and we didn't have clear cash to pay for the whole thing.
Anyway, hope this all makes sense.
I just wanted to share a cute story of our daughter Denniel. She is such an amazing and sweet girl, she always blows me away with her knowledge. We were at a store the other day and she saw a Barbie she just loved. It was brown and she of course was thrilled( since they have decided to always look for the brown dolls/barbies) They say that they want to make Zalea feel special by having brown dolls. (Isn't that sweet?) Anyway, on with the real story, she wanted this doll and then caught herself and said; "but mommy, we have to save all our money so we can go pick up Zalea." "She has been waiting a long time for us." I thought that was so thougtful of her. I am just shocked everyday at how much the children understand of the adoption. We decided to name her quite early on in the process and I have been really glad about that. Our children talk about her as if she is in our family already.
Just thought I would share a few pictures of the CAFAC camping weekend last summer, in Minnidosa. Our children had a blast. P.S. Look above post for the pictures.






















TRUST IN THE LORD!!!

I have been praying for our referral to come soon, before my heart breaks of longing for my little girl. Having been pregnant before, I can honestly say that it feels the same way. In my devotions today, I read some of my favorite verses and wanted to share them.
"FOR YOU FORMED ALL THE DELICATE, INNER PARTS OF MY BODY AND KNIT ME TOGETHER IN MY MOTHER'S WOMB. I PRAISE YOU, FOR I AM FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE. WONDERFUL ARE YOUR WORKS; MY SOUL KNOWS IT VERY WELL. MY FRAME WAS NOT HIDDEN FROM YOU, WHEN I WAS MADE IN SECRET, INTRICATELY WOVEN IN THE DEPTHS OF THE EARTH. YOUR EYES SAW MY UNFORMED SUBSTANCE; IN YOUR BOOK WERE WRITTEN, EVERY ONE OF THEM, THE DAYS THAT WERE FORMED FOR ME, WHEN AS YET THERE WERE NONE OF THEM. "PSALM 139 13-16"
Today was such a beautiful day. We spent the day getting the play structure together for the kids. I couldn't help but picture a little Zalea playing with our other children. I thought it was so sweet when the twins decided for bed time prayer, they would pray for Zalea's safety and of course food, clothes, and love.

I just thought I'd share with you, about the support group my friend and I have started. It's for families with children from Ethiopia. She has a 6 year old daughter from Ethiopia and what a beauty she is. It has been just amazing to see her learn english and adjust to our culture. It is amazing how fast this can happen. I had planned on only starting this group after we came home with Zalea, but she called me and asked if I would help her with it, and of course I could't say no. We have 7 families attending who are all from our church. It is really wonderful to have an extended family like this. We take turns meeting at each others homes and especially the children really enjoy it. It is also a wonderful time for us as parents, to share ideas, struggles, and just general chit chat. For Bill and I at this point, it has just been great to see so many families who have come home with their children. Seeing this just makes it real for us, and reminds us that in the Lords time, it will happen.

OUR CHILDREN



I just thought I would share briefly the story of our children and the joy they bring to us. Bill and I were married for arox. 1 1/2 years when I found out I was pregnant. At this point, the thought of having twins had never crossed my mind. Bill and I love our children more than words can express and we are so blessed to have them, however; we had not planned on having our own children since our dream was to adopt from Africa. When I was six months pregnant, I had only gained a few pounds and I was getting quite concerned. I had been extremely nauseous in the first six months and kept down very little food. My doctor sent me for an ultrasound at this point, and to my shock, I found out we would have twins. The girls were born healthy and weighed 5 pounds 3ounces and 4 pounds 14ounces. I have never experienced such amazing instant love in my whole life. It would be impossible to describe the first year with my girls. My mother was fighting breast cancer at the time, my father in law had had a heart attack so my mother in law was busy taking care of her husband. I was on my own!!! Bill had a job where he worked very long days and often didn't get home till very late. Anyway, when the girls turned one year old, I again found out I was pregnant, and nine months later, our beautiful son was born. He weighed 5 pounds 13ounces. He was so little because the cord was in several knots.
At this point I had three children under two!!! Life was busy to say the least. Although life was a complete blur, I do remember praying for one thing..... I prayed many, many times, that the girls would become best friends. To describe my girls as best friends today, would be an under statement. From the moment they wake up in the morning, until the moment they go to bed, they are together. I can not describe what a joy it is to see the love between them. They are such great "big" sisters to Jonah. They include him in their daily activities and really do their best to make him feel included.
Well, that's my mini brag page of my children. Gotta run. Love you guys.

ZALEA'S ROOM




Sorry for the lack of posts. As I said in my last post, I am computer challenged and am learning a whole lot of stuff. I've redone this post for the third time now and hopefully this is the last. I was having problems with upside down pictures etc.
My husband and I have spend alot of time working in Zalea's room lately and I'm quite happy with how it turned out. I saw a picture in a magazine and loved it, so I tried to copy it. We found some wall paper that fit well. My favorite buy was at Winners, where I found the dressers. It was a great project for us to work together on.(Good bonding time) We realize that we will probably have to put the crib in her room at least for a while, but for now this will work until we know her age. I am just dreaming of the day we get that long awaited call or email about our angel. I just am dieing to know what she looks like and how old she is. Everyone is telling me that it will happen soon, but I'm finding myself losing hope. This week was hard!! Even with being very busy, I still can't stop thinking of her, and how she's doing. I have several friends with children from Ethiopia and I'm so grateful for that. They are a constant reminder that it will happen with time. We have spend alot of time with them since our process started and praise the Lord for that. What a blessing it will be to have so many children for Zalea to relate to.
My husband and I have recently gone to several Ethiopian restaurants locally, and fallen in love with the food. I was craving it really bad one day, so we called up one of our friends and went for supper. We are really enjoying some of these experiences. Well gotta run. I'm going away for the weekend and can't wait.

MY FIRST BLOG ENTRY

HELLO!!!! Welcome to my very first attempt at doing a blog posting. To give you a brief overview on myself and my family, here goes. My name is Lisa and I have been married to my husband Bill for seven years. We have three WONDERFUL children Breahnna and Denniel who are almost six and are twins. We also have an almost four year old (Jonah). We are now waiting for a refferal for our daughter from Ethiopia.

I have so many things to share, but I would like to start with the reason we are adopting because I'm sure you can tell that it's not a fertility problem.

When I was 6 years old, my dad took my sister and me to see "The African Childrens Choir!" They were amazing, but mostly, it was that day I remember as being the day that changed many of my hopes and dreams for my life. I fell in love with those children that night. When I was old enough to understand that they were orphans and alot of children in parts of Africa were in need of parents, I set it in my heart that one day I would adopt as many as the Lord would allow me to. That dream has never left me. When I met my husband and I found out this was also a dream of his, I was certain that this was the road the Lord wanted us to travel. My husband and I at this point, had decided that we were happy not to have our own biological children but that we would just adopt. I then found out just shortly after this, that I was pregnant. When I was six months pregnant, I found out it was twins. I would be lieing if I said that I wasn't disapoined. I know that for those of you who have really struggled with infertility, this is probably upsetting to even hear. Because I had some friends who struggled with infertility, I didn't show my feelings to anyone. It was after a surprise pregnancy with my son that I couldn't hide my feelings anymore. It was almost a feeling of guilt(the fact that I was pregnant) That must sound crazy, but it was because I felt that there was so many children without parents, that why would I bring more into the world, especially because we felt called to adopt.

We started our process of adoption on April 4th 2006. So we have been working on it exactly one year. What a rollarcoaster of emotions!!!! When we started, we were so excited and determined to be patient and not let it become an obsession. That is easier said then done. We are working through an agency called CAFAC. What a wonderful team. They have been just amazing to work with. I would recomend them to anyone concidering adoption in Canada. Our dossier arrived on Oct 2nd 2006. We have now been waiting for 6 months and 2 days. I am having a much harder time waiting then my husband. I can honestly say that the bonding that happens when you are pregnant, has happened every bit as much for me in this process. How awsome is that. I have cried for this child just like in my pregnancies.